How I Got Started On My Self Employment Journey

Angela Cartier
4 min readNov 2, 2021

I lost my most recent job a few years ago. I didn’t get fired or anything dramatic like that, but the company I was working for shut down the specific branch I was a part of and as a result we all got laid off.

It happens, it was a bummer but oh well. 
On to new things.

Initially, I started sending out resumes right away. But a nagging thought kept tugging at my mind.

I didn't want a new job.

See here’s the thing, I hate having a traditional job. I hate working outside of the house, I hate that someone else gets to dictate what each hour of my time is worth, and put a limit on how much I can earn. I hate the daily commute...there’s just a lot of things I strongly dislike about a “regular job.”

But I also like making money. Even more than the things I dislike about a job, I really hate not earning my own money. My fiancé works, and that’s great but I’m not comfortable just living off his income.

I can only speak for my own opinions and my own relationship but I’m not a "his money is my money!" kind of partner. If you are and that works for both of you, Cool. But it’s not for me. Yes, we are a team and we tackle expenses as a team, and if either of us are in a tough spot the other will certainly step in to help resolve that, but what I earn is mine and what he earns is his, and for us that’s just the way it is.

Not earning my own money is not Ok with me for a variety of reasons, 3 of the big ones being:

  • What if something happens to my partner or his income and then we have nothing to fall back on?
  • What if I want to buy my partner a gift or execute some type of surprise? I’m not using money he worked for to buy him a present. That’s just not an option for me.
  • I enjoy setting, and then working towards achieving, my own financial goals. I need my own income for that.

I’m also not really a "Stay at home mom is a job!" kind of mom. Yes, being a mom is hard work. Yes it’s necessary and rewarding and important in a million different ways. But it’s not a job. It’s not paying any bills, putting food on the table or gas in our cars. It’s not building up our savings or paying…



Angela Cartier

Mom of 3. Writing about motherhood, and my work from home/self employment experimental journey.